![]() ![]() For example, if everyone is joking around about sex, they may mention something they read about the peculiar mating habits of barnacles. If they're having a conversation and want to add a point of their own, they're more likely to come up with something that seems bizarre and out of place to most people, because they don't have as much "typical" material to draw from. Sometimes people are seen as weird because they've spent hours and hours accumulating non-typical knowledge and experiences. Having too many esoteric thoughts, knowledge, and experiences in your head Sometimes this behavior is a type of unconscious self-sabotage. The obvious drawback is that outside of their own little world other people think they're acting odd and alienating. ![]() At other times they get entertainment simply from acting strange. Sometimes it's like they have an ongoing in-joke with themselves. They may revert to this kind of behavior when they're bored or have nothing else to do. Like they may say a comment out loud that will entertain them to hear, but will offend or confuse everyone else. One thing I've noticed with supposedly weird people is that they'll do little things to amuse themselves and not care what everyone else thinks of it. A lot of people will label this kind of behavior as weird and see it as pretty off-putting. The same people often come across as immature in general. They get carried away and go overboard with the silliness. Some people can act pretty childish and hyper, especially when they're excited or joking around. Of course, just improving your social skills will correct this problem. Being really quiet? Again, many people could see this behavior as a sign of shyness, but some would label it as weird too.Seemed really uncomfortable and stammered out two-word reply when I said hello? Maybe just shy, possibly weird as well.It's five in the evening and his hair looks like he just got out of bed? Weird.Brought up a gross subject during a staff meeting? Weird.Disclosing too much personal information at a time when it's not appropriate? Weird.Was asked a question where people normally give a canned response and said something out of left field instead? Weird.People may also assume somone's social errors are symptoms of a more core oddness. They're seen as strange because their behavior is not what others are expecting. People often get called weird when they make a lot of social mistakes. This point and the ones below cover behaviors that are more objectively problematic. Other people may form the impression that you're a weird person all around, even if they laugh at some of the kooky stuff you come up with. Some people may not think anything of it when you show your random sense of humor. I think what's important is to know your audience. There's nothing wrong with making jokes that are really out there. If you make a lot of strange or random jokes people may conclude your overall personality is like that. In another article, Thoughts on Being Funny, I mention that people can't help but assume your sense of humor reflects what you're like as a person. This is the variety of weirdness that many people probably won't want to change too much, or only make slight practical tweaks to. Many people will be seen as weird simply for dressing differently, having an esoteric hobby, having a unique way of looking at the world, or having opinions that aren't entirely mainstream. Sure, some people would argue that Goths are weird in other ways, but I think that's subjective. I've never heard anyone say, "Look at that weird jock", but you'll often hear, "Look at that weird Goth kid." To a large degree Goths are seen as weird, and jocks as normal, because one subculture is way more common than the other. Here are some things that may earn someone a negative "weird" label: Simply being too different from the norm in some way The choices someone will make depends on how much their orientation toward changing socially is based on being pragmatic and adapting to the world vs. It's a judgment call that everyone has to make for themselves. The hard part is figuring out which of your weird behaviors to keep and which ones to adjust. ![]() In this case the person doing the weird things may want to take that feedback to heart and try to act differently. At other times someone may call something weird, and they're pointing out a behavior that's socially inappropriate, and overly strange and disconcerting. The appeal of many artists and performers is that they're delightfully odd and proudly non-conventional. ![]() Sometimes it refers to something that's offbeat or different, but not necessarily bad. It's a tricky word to deal with because it has both positive and negative connotations, and we use it to describe all kinds of things. Socially awkward people often get told they're weird. ![]()
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